A Pattern We Can’t Ignore
What 62 million visits reveal - and why this goes far beyond one investigation
By Jade Blue
An investigation has revealed that a website where men share advice on drugging, assaulting and recording women received 62 million visits in a single month. Not anonymous figures in the distance. Partners. Husbands. Men within people’s everyday lives.
It’s often framed as extreme - something separate from the rest of society. But numbers like that don’t appear in isolation. They reflect something more embedded, built on attitudes and responses already present in everyday culture - where harm is downplayed, women’s accounts are questioned, and violence is harder to respond to when it doesn’t fit a clear, provable narrative. This isn’t separate from that. It’s what that looks like when it’s exposed.
Much of what’s being exposed involves drug-facilitated abuse - where memory is removed, and with it, a person’s ability to clearly evidence what happened to them. And when memory is missing, something else happens. The story gets rewritten.
In my case, I had no recollection of what happened.
The defence claimed I had sexsomnia - essentially that it was something I had done. Later, it became clear that drug-facilitated rape was far more likely. But the framing had already shifted, and once it does, it’s hard to pull it back. My case was closed. There was no scope to reopen it - despite the CPS later acknowledging they had made a mistake, that the case should have gone to court, and that there had been a realistic prospect of conviction. That doesn’t undo anything.
Reading reporting like this brings up a question that isn’t often said out loud: Was I recorded?
Because here, that isn’t hypothetical. It’s part of the pattern - filming, sharing, circulating. And in my case, my phone was taken as evidence. But his wasn’t. That difference matters. It shapes what is found. What is followed up on, what is considered credible, and it leaves survivors carrying uncertainty that never fully resolves. This is why it doesn’t sit right to treat this as an outlier.
It connects directly to the everyday responses survivors already face - the doubt, the evidential thresholds, the cases that don’t progress. It’s the same system. Just without the filter. So the question isn’t just how something like this exists. It’s what we continue to tolerate - and why education, early, consistent and grounded in reality, is one of the few things that can actually shift it.
Source: CNN
